My wife was suspicious about a few things in our marriage. We where fooling around one night and she had her hand on my cock and it was all lubed up. She was stroking it real slow and it felt so good. She started to talk to me and asking me questions. I couldn’t help my self but to tell her everything she wanted to know  hoping that if I did she would let me explode. She found out some bad stuff. I thought she was going to leave me so I offered her to punish me. Reluctantly she agreed because she wasn’t into hurting me. She started spanking me every night and it was suppose to last 60 nights. some nights it was real bad and I was black and blue for the entire summer. That’s how we found our masochist and sadist sides of our self. Since then she has used that technique on me a few times and I cant resist it even knowing what she is doing. She even gave me suggestions wile doing it and I wanted to follow her directions the next day. I call my penis The communication port to my brain. Men don’t think with their dicks but a woman sure can communicate with it. This is something you might have to start with little things and probably best let him get off if he cooperates with you to condition his mind.  3 months after she did that we read the same thing on another website Real Women Don’t Do Housework worth  reading.